My husband is having an affair, should I go? Every woman in this position is bound to ask this question. To someone on the outside, the answer seems to be a resounding and very vocal “yes.” However, no one can know how you feel and it is up to no one but you to decide what is best for your marriage. You need to carefully analyze the foundation of the relationship and the behavior and mood of her husband now. From there, you can make an informed and compassionate decision about what is best for not only you but also your family.
An important factor in deciding whether to stay or go when you first find out that your husband is having an affair is whether the adulterous relationship is still ongoing. Many women stumble when they find out that their husband is being unfaithful. Others are tipped off by a well-meaning friend or family member or, in some cases, a jilted lover. Other women receive the information from their guilty husband. Regardless of how you find out about the affair, your current relationship with the other woman should be your main concern. If you still see each other and he has no intention of changing that, you need to part with it. You don’t want to get caught up in a situation where you are fighting for your husband’s love and affection with another woman. That can’t end well for either of you.
Does your husband show genuine remorse for his indiscretion? If she seems to regret what she did and is taking steps to remedy the broken trust and betrayal, she should seriously consider it. On the other hand, if he continually blames you and tells you that you made him cheat on you, that’s not a healthy place for you.
Obviously, your children will be a big concern for you when you are considering whether or not to leave your husband after he has had an affair. If you and your husband don’t talk to each other or when you do talk it’s strictly to argue, your children won’t benefit from witnessing that. Consider whether there is any real possibility of rebuilding the relationship for your own sake, not your children’s. Children are very resilient, and the comfort of spending time with two happy parents who live apart is much more beneficial than living in a home filled with anger and resentment.