Seeing your marriage end is one of the most horrible and mentally devastating things you can go through in your life. You can’t help but remember the ceremony, the honeymoon; all good morning with good hopes. And you don’t want to agree to drop everything and get a divorce. You want to save a marriage but you can’t because everything seems to be going the wrong way.
I know all that exactly, because I’ve been in your shoes. I feel sorry for you, my friend, as my marriage was also ending. I wanted to save my marriage but I didn’t know what to do. All I could think of to do was apologize over and over to my husband and beg him to forgive me to save our marriage.
But let’s not rush from those difficult days to today: I have saved my marriage. And in saying this, I know I am grossly underestimating everything: because my husband loves me more than anything right now, and I love him more than anything. Our marriage is so…amazing!
What changed? What did I do to save a marriage, that changed the whole episode so much?
It’s that I’ve been taught to do the right things instead of apologizing and begging my spouse. The right thing to do to save a marriage is to acknowledge that your spouse is fed up with you and refrain from doing things that would make your spouse even more fed up with you. Actually, you should do the opposite of these things. How?
You should be more “unapproachable” to your spouse. Don’t ask them for anything. Don’t forget that people want what they CAN’T have! This rule is working against you right now, and it’s up to you to reverse the situation so that the rule works FOR you.