It’s a sad thought to let a relationship fade, but if you really want your husband to know that the spark is fading, that he’s losing you, read on:
Spend time away from him.
Taking a long vacation will help you see things in a different light. You can take the time to assess your feelings and the situation, and see if you’re really losing interest or just need time to yourself. It will also let him know that you are getting tired of the closeness and that you need time off.
Start putting your life in order.
If you see yourself living a life without your partner, then you need to start planning for your future. If you are a housewife, then you need to start a business or get a job. If your husband sees that you are starting to prepare for a life without him, then he might pick up on the situation.
Be in control of your emotions.
Never get into emotional outbursts or fight with him. His patience may be much shorter now than ever, but he needs to be emotionally stable to get through this critical phase in their relationship. Don’t blame him for the fact that you’re losing interest, or make him feel like it’s his fault that the marriage is falling apart.
Treat him more like a friend.
They don’t have to be enemies: their relationship may be fading, but they can still love him in a platonic way. There will be less intimacy and no fun in bed, but you can still enjoy each other’s company.
Don’t try to fake affection.
Pretending that you still love him like before will not do any good. It will be a fight for you and a puzzle for him. Respect him as a person, as an individual, and don’t try to trick him into thinking that nothing is wrong. Don’t give him false hope. Be realistic.
Let him know some of your plans.
You have made plans without consulting him, you have dreams that do not include him, you move on with your life without him… Letting him know your plans is a big step for him to realize that he is losing you. .
Tell him.
This is the safest way… but if you intend to tell him, make sure you are emotionally stable and that you can accept the consequences that may come with it.