So you feel like you’re in love and you can’t imagine your life without your special guy? If so, you probably want to know how to keep him around for the long haul.
While there’s no magic way to 100% guarantee this, there are a few things you can try and concepts you can study to give yourself the best chance of happily ever after.
Be independent
The more independent you are, the better off both you and your man will be.
Don’t give up your job, your friends or your family for your boyfriend. Your life is your own and you should never give up anything important to you for a relationship.
respect their independence
Just as you feel better when you have a full and satisfying life of your own, he feels better too. Don’t cling to him and complain when he wants his own life, because allowing him to keep his friendships and his life intact may be what ultimately keeps you together.
The jealousy has to go
Nothing can wear a guy down like a jealous and possessive girlfriend who is constantly questioning and nagging.
If you behave this way, one of the following is true: 1. You are the jealous type and always have been, or 2. He has already cheated on you and you are afraid it will happen again.
Naturally jealous girls will be relieved to know that there is hope. You are like this because you have a problem that you must deal with, such as deep insecurities or abandonment problems. Take care of your personal things and don’t take it out on your boy.
If you’ve cheated on him, there’s not much you can do to correct his behavior because he caused it and you may not be doing much to alleviate it. There’s no sugar-coated way to say it: just keep going because it’s guaranteed to only get worse from here on out.
Let the past stay in the past
Anything he’s done wrong that you can bring up from time to time, let it go.
Anything you’ve done wrong that you feel guilty about, let it go and make sure he does too.
Couples that cling to the past and hold a grudge against each other never last long.
Don’t make unrealistic demands
Sure, you can think about him a lot, but he’s a human being and not a perfect prince charming. He will make mistakes, so don’t overreact when it happens.
As long as he does his best and treats you right, why demand the world of him?
you don’t have to be perfect
Just as you shouldn’t demand perfection from him, don’t demand it from yourself either.
Women tend to be overly critical of themselves at times when they are in a serious relationship. If this sounds like you, relax and accept your imperfections. Chances are your partner doesn’t notice all the little flaws you make. And even if it has, who cares? He loves you anyway.
And remember: supermodels get divorced every day. Think about it. Physical beauty will not keep a relationship intact for long.
do not force it
Above all else, enjoy the moment and don’t force your relationship into a “forever” image in your mind.
You are with someone you love, and that is a blessing that many do not have. So don’t be greedy and be happy that you are one half of an amazing couple.