We all know that guys can have communication problems, but when he doesn’t like you that much, it’s almost impossible for him to admit it. So we need a man → understatement → gibberish service, so that what he really means doesn’t get lost in translation.

It’s not just communication issues, either. when men have evil news to communicate, they get very nervous about how it will be received. Will he/she get angry/cry/hit me?

Men don’t like being on the receiving end of women’s emotional outbursts, especially women they don’t feel committed to. Somewhere inside they’re thinking, “This isn’t fair. I haven’t signed up for this, yet, and I don’t see why I should have to put up with it.”

Many women spend hours, alone or with their friends, pondering what a man really meant when he said or did something confusing. But the confusion arises from women’s unwillingness to believe what is usually quite obvious, because it is not something that wish to believe. It’s not easy to admit to yourself, or to your friends, that he’s not that into you.

Men are pretty direct about most things, and when they’re not, it’s because they don’t want to hurt your feelings by being too direct. So when he starts being evasive, vague, cautious, or just plain sneaky, it’s because he’s trying to tell you something he thinks you don’t want to hear.

  • “It’s not you, it’s Me”. This is the classic say nothing, get out of jail card. It is usually accompanied by a lot of nonsense about how he doesn’t deserve you, etc. (see below). It means that he likes you, but he doesn’t like you that much, not enough to want a real relationship with you.
  • “I don’t deserve you. You can do so much better.” Maybe he can persuade you to stay in an open relationship where both of you are free to look for someone else, while still having each other for sex. As far as commitment goes, well, he’s not that into you.
  • “We can still be friends.” He means you can go out once in a while, but he doesn’t want to date you or get to know you as a person, because he just doesn’t like you.
  • “I don’t really like relationships or labels.” He doesn’t want a monogamous relationship with you and please don’t call him your boyfriend. He might scare off other women that he might want to date.
  • “I’m not ready for a relationship yet.” I was hoping you didn’t mention the words ‘relationship’, ‘exclusive’ or the dreaded ‘where is this relationship going’; But now that he’s done it, he hopes he can keep his current options open by hinting at the possibility of something better happening in the future. Right now, he is not that interested in you.
  • “I think we should take a break.” He’s starting to feel nervous because you think you’re in a relationship together, when you’re not, and he doesn’t want to be either. He’s just not that interested in you. But he wants to keep his options open, in case nothing better comes along within a reasonable amount of time.
  • “I need space”. Did you mean him as your boyfriend? This has made him very nervous and he wants to go back to casual jogging where he feels most comfortable. You also expect to see him more often than he really wants to, because he just doesn’t like you that much.
  • he disappears. This man doesn’t bother with an excuse, no matter how corny. Either he’s a coward, or he doesn’t like you enough to bother making an excuse not to see you again. He hasn’t died, fallen off a tall building, under a bus, or gone into a coma, and he’s not “too scared” to call you. He’s just not that interested in you.

When a man comes up with one or more of these lines, he’s making his bid for freedom. He hopes that you don’t mind too much and that you let him go without any further problems. If they haven’t actually dumped you, then your relationship has degraded to casual and you’ve become a friend with benefits.

unless you are truly happy with this, then you should cut all ties with him completely. That way he won’t be able to enjoy the benefits of your company without the responsibility of caring about your feelings. And he also won’t have any excuse to call you a stalker and tell his friends about that crazy girl who just won’t leave him alone.

However, he will be very happy to continue sleeping with you, until he finds a better option.

When men huff and puff like this, women sometimes choose to blind themselves to reality because they want to keep it and they want the relationship to work. because he really hasn’t said was leaving them, they keep their hopes up, wondering if there’s still a way they can make it work.

You have to accept that there probably isn’t.

So don’t sit around with your friends pondering what she really meant, and why she did this, that, and the other. Men often say what they mean, even if they don’t say it directly enough for their meaning to be crystal clear to a chimpanzee.

There is nothing you could have said or done differently that would change things. When a man really wants to be with a woman, he is not hesitant or ambiguous with her, and you will not have any doubts about how he really feels.

Right now though, however he wants to say it, what he really means is that he just doesn’t like you that much.