The 21st reason why you can’t find love is important. It is also related to the numbers one and 17 reasons. Reason number one is that you don’t listen. Reason number 17 is that you listen to a radio station. There’s a reason you don’t listen. And number 21 tells you why you are not listening. Angel number 21 is a deathblow for relationships of any kind. You will find it in the workplace or with your children and siblings.
The 21st reason you can’t find love is that you use presuppositions to evaluate others and situations. So instead of listening to what someone tells you, listen to what they have already taught you. The funny thing is that you don’t know where you learned it in most cases. However, you wear yourself out because you believe that belief has helped you in the past.
What happened when I came back to the US and met Gary and Derek’s ex?
Instead of listening to me, they were listening to a radio station in their head that had assumptions about me. They laughed in my face because they were listening to the quotes on that radio. They believed their assumptions about me and invalidated me to my face. It literally had nothing to do with me or what I said. Why? Because I actually lived abroad for several years. Therefore, he had nothing to prove to them.
This is how people treat each other when they first meet. I have known several women who met a guy and hated him when they met. As she got to know him, she liked him and later married him. Now she loves him. If those women weren’t open to meeting their husbands, they would have invalidated them and believed they were right.
Many people are not as lucky as those women. Most are addicted to being right about their assumptions. And they can’t stop, even if it’s hurting them in their love life or career.
This is a clear case of when people say that perception is reality. No, just because you believe something doesn’t make it right. A lie does not become the truth because you believe the lie. So stop telling people that perception is reality.
Let’s look at this from another perspective.
There is a flip side to this. You can also have assumptions about people and believe that they are great people. They might remind you of someone you have great respect for. They might remind you of a character from a movie that you really like. Since you want to be right about who you think they are, you will never see that they are lying to you. They are presenting a farce. This happens in religious institutions when the priest or pastor abuses children. People have the presupposition that the priest is really a good person. So they continue to support the priest, even though he is hurting people.
The men who present the farce well are called actors. They pretend to be who you need them to be. That way you can justify why you are involved with them. You get addicted to those assumptions at your radio station and you can’t let go. Now he has to defend his actions and make all kinds of justifications.
As you can see, assumptions can be debilitating. They can kill great relationships, career opportunities, or set you up to be destroyed. Dropping that addiction mindset takes work. Most believe they can do it by reading a book. Unlearning it requires someone who can guide you on that journey of transformation.