The old relics in our lives may be taking up space. Tonight I went with my mother to an estate sale. They sold many very nice antiques. The couple had decided to downsize their grand home and get a 900-square-foot condo on the beach. So all their very expensive furniture was up for sale because they just didn’t want to move it. They were entering a new phase of their lives and no longer needed certain things.
When we move into a new phase of our romance, we no longer need certain things. This does not mean that these things are bad in and of themselves. They just don’t fit us or our needs anymore. Sometimes they are more suitable for other people besides us. We have to learn to let things go. For some of us this is really difficult.
I once had a girlfriend who had moved back in with her parents. Her house was impressive. They were hoarders and had everything they had ever had in their house. The bad thing was that my girlfriend had two small children and she worried about her safety among all the garbage. One day I went there and we took out all the mess. The parents were not happy with me, but the children were now safe.
This is all about being ourselves. I can’t sit here and make a list of things to put in your “real estate sale,” but I can tell you that if you’re doing things that don’t fit your personality anymore, just because you’ve always done them, then that might be something you should consider passing.
Life is always going to be about change. Nature changes we go through four changes a year with it and many little ones in between isn’t it natural to change? It is, but we make it so hard. Learn to ride the waves of change and enjoy the view while you have it. Things will change and before you realize something you hated, you may be missing out.
Get ready because life is going to throw you some extreme curveballs. It won’t give you much notice. Like the couple I mentioned, sometimes it’s better to travel light. Learn to be yourself in your relationships, leaving aside the things that do not go with your personality and your life.